It’s February. That means by now we have broken most, if not all, of our New Year’s resolutions.
But before we become too self-critical, this might be a good opportunity to understand the science of habit forming (and breaking) so 2026 can be salvaged and we need not wait until 2027 to try again.
A habit is defined as an automatic behavior or routine that you do repeatedly, sometimes without thinking. It can be something that is considered good (like brushing your teeth), or something not so good (like smoking). But either way, because it’s routine and humans are wired to repeat behaviors, change requires a conscious effort.
A 2006 study by Duke University found that 40% of the actions people perform each day are not actual decisions, but habits. That means that we’re living almost half of our waking hours on auto-pilot — a sobering thought.
Neuropsychologist Dr. Heidi Allison Bender says that when you create a habit, the neurons in your brain continuously fire in the same pattern, which etches it in your mind. In order to “undo” it, the connections must be weakened. Undoing it is difficult because the habit serves a purpose; it’s baked into the brain and requires little conscious thought.
For example: Think about grabbing a phone and scrolling. I find myself doing this sometimes without even thinking. Dr. Bender and other researchers have described this process over the years. It’s been popularized by author Charles Duhigg in several books and articles, with his most wellknown book called, “The Power of Habit.” In a nutshell, we are victims of something known as the “habit loop.”
The habit loop, the neurological pattern that governs a habit, consists of three elements: a cue, a routine and a reward. Brain circuits get activated by a trigger (the cue) and during that activation you have a behavior that gets strengthened through repetition, which leads to a reward. Dopamine (the “feel good” hormone — think cocaine) creates a positive association between the behavior and what you are experiencing.
Using the example of a phone, the cue is a feeling that I want to see all those wonderful people writing to me. I then pick up my phone, which is the response, and when I see a text from one of my children, I experience pleasure that is the reward. This helps build the routine until it becomes a habit. (Of course most of those “wonderful” people writing to me are politicians and organizations wanting my money, but that doesn’t seem to stop the habit loop.) The reason for that goes back to Dr. Bender’s research that the connections are difficult to undo once the cue and the reward become intertwined.
So how do we undo or change a habit? From a neurological perspective, the brain must override its default wiring and create a new response to the cues. It isn’t easy.
Dr. Bender gives an example that is near and dear to me. Many people bite their nails or cuticles when anxious. The cue-routine-reward loop is unconscious so that the person generally is not saying, “This isn’t good for me, I should stop.” When someone intentionally attempts to stop biting their nails, they must first become aware of feeling anxious. Then they must consciously substitute a better response (like deep breathing). How long would that more adaptive behavior take to get locked in? According to medical literature, it would take an average of 66 days with a range from 18 to 254 days to actually change a habit. In a 2020 Forbes article, organizational psychologist Bri Flynn Witthuhn gives some practical advice on how to rewire our brains in “potentially triggering” situations.
Source: The Suffolk Times
